Comments on: Love Means

By: Peggy

Peggy — Fri, 18 Jul 2008 20:20:57 +0000

Bless you Jen! Amen…to all of your wisdom…though back when this movie came out I loved it! And in her setting, you must admit it was valid! Though it was a silly line…it stuck and here we are in 2008…remembering it! But YOURS is so much more TRUE!
I liked Becky’s also #1 comment. If my marriage, on both sides had said I’m sorry and shown this sorrow,perhaps I would have lasted and remained together in spite of our conflicts and differences. Though I spoke these words frequently after MESSING up…I’m not sure I showed it because I did it again, messed up all over again…after all, He is not God(though he certainly acted and tried to be at times)but I do believe he loves me sometimes unconditionally but he does the best he can humanely. Just doesn’t want to change, very set in his ways…needs much prayer to accept Christ as his Savior…not that this would resolve our long separation…it is ALL he needs and has needed with or without me in his life! So LOVE means saying you’re sorry-only made me look like I was the only part of the problem. Pride be gone! I just want Jesus way to be shown to this man anyway HE can!

By: Tipper

Tipper — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 16:10:25 +0000

It is a strange saying to understand-I agree with Becky on the subject of those you love.

By: Jen

Jen — Wed, 16 Jul 2008 16:07:47 +0000

Sandier Pastures, hey, I’m so glad to hear you’ve got this cleared up!! Seriously, a wrong interpretation on an issue like forgiveness can be completely destructive.

SmallWorld, I should see the movie and judge the context for myself, huh? Glad you liked it.

Veggie Mom, That’s another great example of a dumb love quote!!

e-Mom, I agree with you on the youth ministries that have been/are an enormous blessing to our young people. I benefitted so much from those ministries myself. I do have issues with the way some youth ministry is carried out these days, but that’s another story!

By: e-Mom

e-Mom — Mon, 14 Jul 2008 05:54:42 +0000

Yup, perfect. You got it right! I agree, it’s a confusing line, but it sure was appealing to my generation of “flower children.” (Lol, sorry you missed out on the hippy era!) I’m so grateful God grabbed ahold of me through the Jesus Movement and it’s youth offshoots. :~D

By: Veggie Mom

Veggie Mom — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 22:37:27 +0000

I’ve also always heard that Making Up is Hard to Do. I don’t really understand that one, either. If you love someone, sometimes you might hurt them; but making up is that much easier, because you love them!

By: SmallWorld

SmallWorld — Sun, 13 Jul 2008 01:23:58 +0000

I love that movie, love the book, but I always thought that was the silliest line!

By: Sandier Pastures

Sandier Pastures — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 12:16:23 +0000

I was actually believing that saying from the movie that it almost ruined my marriage! Thanks for this post, it makes so much sense. Just until last month, I was an unapologetic spouse (insert embarassment here) and thought that my hubby was into power play every time he mentions that I should apologize.

Now I know better.Great post.

By: Jen

Jen — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 06:50:37 +0000

Becky, I agree, with great love (and little pride), the apology should come easy.

Heather, thanks for stopping by!

Mandi, Good job on the movie screening; especially for young ones, this is so critical.

e-Mom, thank you - your comment actually cleared up for me the meaning of that quote. Since you’ve seen the movie and lived through that era, you’re a great source! It sounds like the “never having to say you’re sorry” is supposedly because of the great, unconditional love of the offended one, who will never require a “sorry.” Did I get that right?

By: e-Mom

e-Mom — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 05:45:03 +0000

Nice reflections, Jennifer. I do remember seeing “Love Story,” before I became a Christian. To me and my peers, this line made perfect sense. We got hooked into the idea of searching for a romatic partner who loved us so much (a godlike unconditional love) that our wrongdoing wasn’t supposed to matter, and no apology was necessary.

After a heartbreak or two, I discovered that only the God of the Universe was capable of loving me unconditionally. And I was supposed to ask forgiveness of Him for my sin!

Yes, the media is a powerful source of misinformation. I thank God for youth leaders and other ministries that preach the Truth to young people.

Thanks for linking up to Marriage Monday. :~D

By: Mandi

Mandi — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 23:53:05 +0000

Yep - this is why I question whether to allow my kiddos to watch movies where love is so distorted by this worlds views, which is most everyone of them. Even some of my favorite movies with a G rating, Christian and secular alike, have had me cringing at the false way love is portrayed. I don’t want my children to go into marriage with a false perception of what it ’should’ be like. What a burden to bring into a marriage!

By: Heather Young

Heather Young — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 23:35:13 +0000

Absolutely.

By: Beckynsc

Beckynsc — Fri, 11 Jul 2008 23:12:16 +0000

I have always said, if you love someone, you don’t want to hurt them mentally or physically. So if you do, and you really love them, an apology should come easy!
Why is it, that it is so easy to say hurtful things and so hard to apologize for them?